Inside the Male Brain

I am constantly trying to understand men, dating and relationships. So far, not so good—I’m still single, and have a knack for getting my heart broken.

However! I am trying to change this, and am currently on three online dating sites, one of which being eHarmony.

Needless to say, it doesn’t look like I’ll be staring in any of those happily-ever-after, “I found my match” commercials any time soon.

However! There are a lot of resources on the site (and I’ve already mentioned how to sign up for the service for a fraction of the original cost—but here’s the link again, in case you missed it.)

One link off the eH site caught my attention: A Q&A with Louann Brizendine, M.D., who write the book, Inside the Male Brain.

While I found most of the article to be useless phooey, Brizendine made three rather interesting observations to keep in mind—whether you’re male or female:

  • Love = sex for men, talk for women: Men think “she loves me” because “she wants to have sex with me”; women think “he loves me” because “he wants to talk to me.”
  • If a woman wants to talk about their relationship, she should have sex with her partner first (to reassure him and make him feel safe), then suggest they go for a walk or a drive where she can bring up the topic while sitting or walking side-by-side rather than face-to-face.
  • Men and women both think about sex a lot, but the male brain’s sexual pursuit area is 2.5 times larger than a female’s, and produces 10 times the testosterone, which fuels sexual desire.

About SleeplessInSinCity

A single girl looking for love in Las Vegas, a.k.a. all the wrong places.
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1 Response to Inside the Male Brain

  1. Dennis Hong says:

    Hey, just stumbling through here…. 😉

    If you’re interested in understanding the physiology behind human sexual behavior, check out “The Red Queen,” by Matt Ridley. It’s kind of a dense book, so you have to set aside at least a week or so to read it. But, it’s definitely eye-opening.

    I don’t think you’ll ever approach dating the same after reading the book.

    And no, I’m not a shill for Ridley. I just happen to really like the book.

    Best of luck rekindling the relationship with your ex, though. 🙂

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